When I Didn’t Score A Single Goal, I Digged Up the Goal Posts And Pulled It Closer.

We make goals to make our eyes shine. If it happens, great! If it doesn’t, say ‘Oh, how fascinating’ – Benjamin Zander

How to achieve your goals

Watch movies, pay visit to friends and family, travel the world, nurture the environment, use the social media, write the business plans, reach more people, and feed the world… I want to do all of these and more, so I feel overwhelmed!

I have loads of things I desire to achieve, but failed! The goals wouldn’t work.

Welcome to Think2Riches String 24

While I played as an amateur footballer, I used to wonder why it’s just so hard to score a single goal.

At a time, I asked, ‘why are these goal posts too far away?’ At another time, I submitted that the goalkeepers were too professional.

So, I gave up on playing football and decided to look for a solution to scoring goals in my personal life. Good to know, I found a few tips that worked amazingly.

I will share three major tips very quickly. Let’s set the ball rolling.

When your ‘goal posts’ are too far apart, consider trying out these 3 options

  1. Do Nothing

What? Do nothing?

Yes please, give yourself a break. Relax, let go of all the goals for now. Hmm… this is one of the hard parts for me especially when I think of all the things I need to achieve.

But, hey, put your mind at rest. The idea of killing yourself over the future is detrimental. Learn to smell the roses. It is better you work with a peaceful mind than struggle with confused speed.

Every week I make sure I pay all the debts of my sleepless nights. It helps my creativity and energy to be refreshed.

What You Can Do Practically:

  • Switch off completely from everything, sleep.
  • Do nothing.
  1. Dig up the posts and move it closer to each other

At the beginning of the year, with a beautiful pen and notepads, I scribble what I desire to achieve. It has become a habit in the last 3 years.

Then, each month, week and day, I slice the huge goal into bits and doable pieces. After each day, I mark and appreciate myself for a work well done.

In the last 8 months, though with 9 am to 5 pm work, I couldn’t believe I’d written up to 150 new creative posts in my archive and published up to 90 posts on various media platforms.

What You Can Do Practically:

  • Get rid of distractions; put the phones away, focus for every 30 minutes for a start
  • Keep the goals handy. Attach it to your phone’s wallpaper; write it on a sticky note on your desk or laptop.
  • Read it often and move ahead, do it now. Don’t become a professional procrastinator.
  1. Shoot the ball with more tenacity (by buying an extra leg)

When I was in high school, I’d a friend that played the football so well. I sometimes wished I could buy his leg, just to score some goals. It never happened!

In my personal goals, I decide to push myself beyond my comfort zone. Scoring goals takes practice and a lot of discipline. Professional footballers can write an essay on that.

If you can’t buy a second leg, buy some energy booster for the legs you have. Yeah, our mothers had to do extra work to clean our mess when we were babies.

Your life is your small baby, nourish it, be committed and get to work!

What you can do practically:

  • Let your SMART goals be really Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-bound.
  • Be in the company of people that achieve their goals.
  • Rather than complain on how hard it is, get your hands dirty and invest in learning how things work.
  • Alter your regular approach sometimes. Try out new things.

While I am on the journey of trying out more ways to get my goals into the net, tell me in the comment box;

What strategies have worked for you so far?

8 Basic Questions to Ask Yourself Everyday To Get Ahead In Your Personal Life.

Be curious. A good question can take you a lot farther than a quick answer. ~ JesseLynStoner

Just like babies, I cherish questions, even silly ones and it has helped me dramatically to learn better, listen better and communicate more effectively.

I have made 15 amazing friends from 6 countries this month learning to do this single thing. Hello friends, welcome to #think2riches string 22.

I will share 8 basic questions I ask everyday that helps me find faster solutions to any challenge.

  1. Am I awake?

The mystery of sleep, as Jimi Tewe puts it, is that you don’t know you’ve slept until you are awake. I ask this question to know if I am still dreaming or in reality. I don’t want to spend all my life dreaming, but to start acting. I want to start the venture, do the exercise and send the gift rather than just wishful thinking.

  1. What do I do?

I ask this question to be sure if I am on the right track in my career journey. I want to check if I am on the job just for the monetary gains, social prestige or to add value to other people’s lives.

  1. Who am I hanging out with?

I met a friend, he is 30, he had struggled with smoking and drinking since 18, he said he magically stopped smoking when he changed his set of friends. With light sparks in his eyes, he said, ‘life is pretty beautiful in an wholesome company’

  1. What is happening in my space?

I want to be conscious of my environment, I like to know why my colleague’s face is so dull today, why the people in my neighborhood chant all night. I like to know the social media and development trends. These help me to observe better, it informs my decisions and planning.

  1. Why am I doing this?

At a time, I didn’t feel good spending a large chunk of my time chatting on the phone with friends and colleagues. I recently listed out 5 reasons why I now chat online meaningfully, it includes; to improve my communication, to put my numerous thoughts in short concise format, to polish my English language, to learn to type faster and accurately, to engage people intelligently and with empathy without seeing them face-to-face.

  1. What can I do right now?

Actually, 7 is better than 3. This year I decided to write everyday and publish on facebook thrice a week. After 2 months, writing 7 days a week became a habit than when I wrote 3 days a week. It is easier to keep a habit than to struggle into the habit again.

When I have a lot of work to do, this question helps me to start now. I can call that friend or write that 5-line e-mail. I can trash the dustbin. I can get high smiling. Yippe! I can do it now.

  1. What makes me angry?

I am not sure why I don’t get angry often, but once I do, it will have to do with an abnormally that people do to others. For example, destroying people’s work, imposing your idea on others, stopping others from exercising their abilities and gifts etc.

For these, I will go in a search for solutions, to engage, to research the underlining cause and effects, then act to put things right.

  1. Am I adding any value to the universe?

In many parts of the world, waste human management is a major challenge; check the pages of most newspaper, sad stories welcome the readers every day.

I want to put out good words to my world, I want to lend a helping hand, I want to join the networks of visionaries and shakers working tirelessly to make the world a better place for all of us.

These are some of the basic questions that hold my hands to get ahead daily.

He who asks a question is a fool for a minute; he who does not remains a fool foreverChinese Proverb

What questions do you ask yourself?

Go to the comment box and share what you struggle with daily and what you do to get ahead.

4 Simple Things That Will Help You To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others.

“Avoid the comparison trap. There is no one on the planet quite like YOU!” – Kathleen Hassan

Hello and welcome to another edition of #Think2Riches. This is string 20.

Have you ever been caught up in those moments when you constantly compare yourself or work with someone else and their work?

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For hours, you worry  and compare others’ jobs, relationship, family, make-up, speaking prowess, big muscles and so on with yours.

You know it’s a shoddy habit, but unconsciously it has become so easy for you to fall into the trap just like complaining.

So, how can you practically trade off this habit to get ahead in your personal life?

I will share 4 simple things I do to get hold of this habit and enjoy the best of everyday.

  1. Evaluate yourself with yourself

This may sound very hard especially when you have some categories of people you refer to as your mate.

Hey, your mate isn’t your equal in any way and will never be.

Until I learnt how to write out my plan and continuously check out my progress, it was easy to compare myself with other people’s progress.

This simple exercise will infuse in you the habit of gratitude and likeness to who you are. It will help you to be aware that you are ahead of where you used to be in the past. You will realize that you have leaped over several challenges and on your way to more victory.

  1. Appreciate other people genuinely

Rather than get negatively jealous over people’s achievement, celebrate with them. Look at the beautiful side of their life and shout it loud in their ears.

It is easier to find out the wrong thing in people, how they hurt us, how they never fulfill their promise, how they didn’t visit or call us.

It is hard to see the goodness in people without a conscious mindset shift.

Say to people genuinely how beautiful they are, how excellent their work is, how interesting it is to speak to them. In fact, you can easily do that over a telephone chat.

  1. Take comparing as an Illusion

Whenever I wanted to feel good about what I have, it is easy to say ‘Oh, I have a better shoe than this guy’, a few minutes to that time, I will find someone else’s shoe far better than mine. Then, it will trash my self-esteem really badly.

Our basis of measure is usually subjective and thus not very accurate. Others’ perspective about measure is always different from ours. Don’t kill yourself what others can’t see. Be content with the beauty in your life.

  1. You Aren’t 1 in a Billion

Elementary science confirms that a male sperm and a female egg make the baby. No exactly!

Another level of thought that will help you is to be aware that you are not 1 in 1000000, but you are 1 in a limitless generation. Ah… think about that often.

Hey fash, it is so hard not to compare, there is a wire in my brain that won’t just stop doing it and after all, there is competition everywhere. Friend, in reality, it is about your mindset. #Think2Riches.

In the comment box below, what have you tried that worked?

Do you think there might be some positive and juicy thing about comparing yourself with others? Go ahead, write it in the comment box.

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#Think2Riches String 19: How To Pop Your Collar Without Being Proud.

Pop Your CollarWill you fly your collar at board meetings and others will not question your sanity?

Or at a formal TED Talk Conference, you will look strange, right?

Welcome to another opportunity to #Think2Riches and pop your collar.

Friends, many of us need to learn how to ‘fly our collar’, even at board meetings, enough of jumping from here to there and posts to places adding little or no value to other people’s lives.

We have watched for too long and things are getting over our head. When are you going to make the world glitter with those awesome sparks bundled in you? Now or Never?

For people that use the internet, there is at least 3 things we have in common.

  1. We all have a device
  2. A network and
  3. YOU (or something) behind the gadgets.

We also have uncommon things online.

  1. Why we are online
  2. When we are online
  3. Where we access from
  4. Thought pattern, perspectives, knowledge and wisdom.

The common things aren’t my line of discourse for today, but the uncommon things.

  • Why are you online? In 2 minutes, can you give a specific reason why you use the social media platforms you are subscribed to? No wonder you get caught up on social media all day.
  • When are you online? Except all your life depends on the internet, then it is okay to stay in there all day. Otherwise, you can help yourself using scheduling or automation tools like IFTTT, hootsuite, buffer, feedly and so on, to keep up your online activities.
  • Where we access from? Understanding time differences helps you to schedule correctly. Some have stable networks, some don’t. Learn more about how your clients and friends access the internet and create your activities for easy access.
  • Thought pattern: What makes a good story? Journalist will admit that ‘good’ is determined by the readers. What is beautiful to you may be the most ugly to others. This uncommon thing is what makes all the difference in our lives.

Whatever you want to be known for online, be it fun, inspiration, jokes, design, cake making, troublesome etc, learn more about it each day.

If you have an online presence plan, discipline yourself to follow through.

What is the essence of owning a sophisticated device, which doesn’t detect phoney tales online better than a cheap smart phone?

What are you doing with your phone? Listen to songs, read PDFs, chat, play games, read news, gossip, stalk people etc. Can you do more than that?

You can master the use of your chatting opportunities to brush up on your diction, using it to develop power conversations.

See, more than ever, a lot of success today closely depends on communication, be it in marriage, at work, in business etc. Use this goldmine in your hand, baby.

Use the chat streams to write stories that will sell, use it to network beyond your horizon. Curate your thoughts and send it to publishing houses. In fact, several journalists await your beautiful stories.

You are a tweet away to all the resources you need. One new word, one new friend, one new … can change your life forever.

If you sell anything and you’ve never talked about it online, I take it that you hate to have too much customers, because you have enough! Hey, it isn’t about just opening a facebook page or a twitter account. It’s about learning the ropes of engaging people.

If you subscribe for internet, yet don’t use it in 10 days, please send that resource to charity centers from next month. Yipee!

Push yourself out. Pop your collar, you are not proud. It’s your show. It’s your phone, this is your wall, paint it beautifully. Don’t wait till your lovely insights die within you. Push it Out! Step out and #Think2Riches

P.S: Thanks for joining me on String 19 of #Think2Riches, a 50-week project that will drive you into right living through wise thinking.

You’re Limitless!

© Fasoranti Damilola.

Life Strategist…helping you to transform your limitless potentials into maximum benefits.

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#Think2Riches String 18: 5 Strategic Things I Do In The Toilet Every day.

Things I Do In The Toilet Every dayHi friends and welcome to another edition of #Think2Riches string. I am very excited to continue these strings after a few weeks off.

Restroom is an amazing place, no doubt! Yesterday, as I ‘rested in one of such room’, I figured out that I spend approximately 109500 seconds every year in the toilet. Then, I took a quick stock of how I invest my time and I came up with 5 strategic things I do as explained below:

  1. I Think: Do you need a restroom to deeply reflect? Absolutely! As those molds of fertile balls roll into the toilet pots, the fresh ideas hug the peace that comes with that release. I find myself in harmony with the power that makes all the digestion and egestion work. Free up your nerves, think!
  2. I Write: Sometimes, the rush of inspirations require that I instantly give flesh to them. My fingers respond on paper to the questions in my head. My phone is sometimes handy to do this secretarial job. I have written more than 1000 words in the last 6 months on that seat cover. Give it a try, just write anything.
  3. I Read: Ah, I enjoy this till tomorrow. From inspirational to spiritual to political, I feel so excited at the rate of my comprehension digesting these texts. I have read many magazines, newsletters and in fact half of a book by investing the time on the toilet seat. I also take some time to re-read my text messages or e-mails. Hey, position properly and #read2riches.
  4. I Call: Inadvertently, I miss several calls and this is pretty much of a time to scroll through missed calls to text back or make a quick call back. It has been very effective way of reaching out without struggle. Don’t worry about the smell of your feces, it’s yours after all. Try out one of such calls and remember to give us a feedback.
  5. I Plan: I feel disorganized sometimes; 5 minutes in the restroom can be so magical in putting the right peg in the best hole. I tried this at a time I needed to do a performance; I felt so tensed and pressed, so going to the loo was a good opportunity to discharge the balls and the negative energy. I came on stage with a succinct and accurate plan to deliver.

There are many other things I have tried out that worked perfectly; I will continue to explore other possibilities.

To #Think2Riches, you need to learn how to throw yourself out of the box, get your brains to kiss the mighty hand of God, swallow your pride and invest your time correctly.

In the comment box, feel free to also share what you do in the toilet. 🙂

P.S: Thanks for joining me on String 18 of #Think2Riches, a 50-week project that will drive you into right living through wise thinking.

You’re Limitless!

© Fasoranti Damilola.

Life Strategist…helping you to transform your limitless potentials into maximum benefits.

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